Unprotected Talk

I know I’m late on talking about this but late is better than never. Shame on Donald Trump for caving in and allowing her to compete in the Miss Universe competition. What’s wrong with society and people these days??? The competition WAS for naturally born women. I do feel some compassion for her, it’s even hard for me to call her “her”. But I won’t be too harsh because she is recognized as a woman now. I can only imagine how hard it may be to grow up not feeling comfortable with how God made you. However, this doesn’t mean she gets to compete in a competition designed for natural women! I can only imagine growing up as a kid in today’s society. I would have been totally confused. LOL. I’m not saying the other women in the Miss Universe competition are all natural, because we know many of them have gone under the knife more than once. But they were at least born a woman. Damn really Canada, this is the best you have to offer up there? I would be hot if I was a woman who grew up wanting to be in this competition and I lost to a man. Don’t take this the wrong way and think I’m saying she doesn’t deserve to have the surgery and live her life like a woman, even though that’s another topic all together. But I do not believe she should be able to be in the Miss Universe competition. Her being able to do this will open the flood gates to other similar situations. So to all my fellas who didn’t make the NBA, if you still have hoop dreams and don’t mind cutting off your penis and changing your birth certificate…You can try out for the WNBA!!!! SMH

Yours truly,

theS.O.B.

I have all types of conversations with people who I am close with and those I am not. Relationships are the most popular topic. I’ve said it before that I don’t think the dating game is set up fairly for women, but women tend to have something in them that allows them to give love a chance over and over and over and over again:). A lot of men really aren’t built that way. I shared this situation earlier on Facebook and get some great feedback so I decided to put it on the blog. I had a recent conversation with my homie and he shared his thoughts on future relationships. After his last relationship and all the energy he put into it he doubts he will EVER have that much energy again to put into another relationship. He said he will either be single or the woman he dates will have to accept whatever energy he is willing to put out. I told him just imagine being a woman and feeling that way relationship after relationship. Men can be tough as nails when it comes to physical situations, but the emotional situations can get the toughest man at times. LOL

Yours truly,

theS.O.B.

Of course we have all seen the billboard ads and the commercials promoting safe sex, but does America really care? We all know television and movies are very influential to our youth and even some adults. So ask yourself, when was the last time you saw a sex scene in a movie or television where they stop and get a condom? I’m not saying there is some conspiracy where they want everyone to get an STD so that we have to buy their medication, but it’s clear that when it comes to really promoting safe sex there is some miscommunication.

I remember a few years ago when I was in Miami, the hotel I was staying at had condoms. Even though they were with the other overpriced items like M&M’s, snickers, peanuts, potato chips, etc……….I still felt it was a great idea. I haven’t seen condoms in a hotel since. You would think out of all places in America that Las Vegas would have them, but nope! Ultimately its up to us to educate and protect ourselves. By the way, who uses condoms or dental dam during oral sex?

Yours truly, theS.O.B.

Before I go in on this rant, let me say that I’m very grateful to be alive. Just had to make that clear because I don’t want anyone to think I’m not grateful for each day that I’m able to walk the earth. However, I’ve noticed that many times when someone questions God or His works, people are quick to say that they “should be grateful to be alive”. Really, should everyone be grateful to be alive? Should the child that gets molested everyday, the man sitting on death row for a crime he didn’t commit, children who wake up with no food, the person who is paralyzed and has to be cared for 24hrs a day, the person dying of some horrible disease, etc……..is it really fair to them to say that they should be “grateful to be alive”? I feel that people who have no real solutions just throw God’s name in there and assume everything should be ok. Personally, it brings down the value of the real miracles that God may be performing. Truth of the matter is some people are better off not being on this earth. Especially if what people believe about the after life, heaven and paradise, is true, then why are any of us fighting to stay in this wicked system? It’s a contradiction to the fullest to speak so highly of a better place, but fight so hard to stay on earth. And please don’t tell me you’re still on this earth to spread the Word of God. Because I know for fact that many of you so-called “believers” ain’t spread the Word of God.

Yours truly,

theS.O.B.

I’m very aware that I might have written a few blogs that have pissed off some single mothers. That was never my intention. My opinions can very well be taken out of context which is understandable. Anyone who knows or follows my blog knows I was raised by and have nothing but respect for single mothers.  During a recent conversation a female friend of mine who isn’t a single mother, but just experienced being a single mom for the weekend with her two kids while their father was out of town was telling me how the kids were driving her crazy.  We then got on the subject of single mothers and how difficult it must be to raise one let alone multiple children. I often give my opinion about women staying in shape and keeping their sexy alive. But for anyone to be foolish enough to think I don’t understand or respect how difficult it is for a single mother to stay in shape is just stupid. I can only imagine getting up early to wake up the kid(s), get them dressed, then wake them back up again , fix them breakfast and make sure they eat, drive and drop them off at school, go to work, pick the kids up, help them with homework while fixing dinner, etc…….and then try to find time to stay in shape is damn near impossible. I’m also aware of the mental burden that so many men have left on women by being absent fathers. I listed all the day-to-day responsibilities of a single mother without mentioning the hurt and pain that must come from knowing that there should be help from the man that helped create the kid(s). I’ve said before that life is way harder on women.

I’ve had so many examples in my life to study from when it comes to women and how life can just beat them down. I’ve seen some women not be able to take what life has had to offer them and ultimately gave up and got lost in the world. But I’ve also seen more than enough women take the trials and tribulations that life has thrown at them and stood strong and graceful. Outside of having some ass backwards ways of thinking, the strong women in my life do play a big role in why I’m really stubborn on MY opinions of what I want in a future wife.

Funny story, if my conversation with my homegirl wasn’t enough to make me check myself and think about some of my comments about single mothers and for the most part, women in general…the next day I went to the Lakers game. Even though I went to the game with my homie, I was also asked to watch my 4 year old homeboy. It reminded me of an old skool high school movie where they gave the students an egg to be responsible for. To show them how difficult being a parent can be. Well I got almost 3 hours’ worth. From making sure he didn’t spill his ice cream that he wanted as soon as we walked into Staples center, then him wanting McDonald’s in the 2^nd quarter, ya we ate ice cream first. LOL. Then trying to make sure we both eat without him making a mess. Then him not wanting to walk half the night, to him damn near falling asleep during the 3rd quarter. Then having super energy in the 4^th quarter. I remember saying more than once I don’t know how any single parent does it. LOL. But all in all we had a great time at the game.

For the sake of my future children, let’s hope I won’t be a single parent.

Yours truly,

theS.O.B.

It’s no secret that I talk about the past and how it MAY effect your current or future situation. Not just women but a lot of men have that same “f**k my past” attitude. As if the person they are today should override everything they did in the past. C’mon people, take it from a man who knows and understands his past might harm his future to some degree. In a funny way I like to compare someone’s past to the car company Hyundai. In the 80′s a lot of people had them, but you got clowned because the car was cheap and unreliable. That stigma/reputation stayed with Hyundai for damn near 30 years. Even though Hyundai has done a great job of changing their imagine in the public’s eye. From what I hear they are really nice cars, but ain’t nobody running out to buy one. So yes, if you were a dog a** man, cheater, abusive, trifling etc…… yes you will have to work harder than the next man who doesn’t have the same reputation as you. That goes for women too, if you were a hoe, promiscuous, a cheater, trifling etc…… yes, you do have to work a little harder than the woman who didn’t do any of those things. That bullsh*t the past is the past automatically gets a side eye from me. If it were really that easy then what’s the point in teaching or trying to live the correct way? Protecting your reputation isn’t limited to just someone’s dating history. By no means should your past define you completely (well that depends) but it plays a part. When I form an opinion about a person these days I consider their past (what I know) plus their current character. Seems to work for me.

Yours truly,

theS.O.B.

I have a serious problem with people who use sayings like, “Everything Happens for a Reason” to diffuse a tragic situation. I always ask them, “so what was the reason?” and of course they have no answer or they say, “only God knows”. What type of answer is that, is that supposed to help me sleep at night? I hope no one is saying that to Trayvon Martin’s mother and father. I’m sure some people will say you have to look on the bright side of every situation. To that I ask, “what’s the bright side of a young innocent 17 year old boy being killed?” Do you really think there won’t be anymore young innocent black males killed? F**k looking on the bright side and start looking on the right side. And the right thing that should come from this tragic situation is George Zimmerman’s coward a** will be off the streets before he can kill again (well we hope so). Justice being served is the right thing, but I can’t say it’s a good thing. Only because Trayvon Martin’s life is over, his mother, father, family and friends lives have forever been changed in a negative way. I know we always see parents or someone representing the family in a tragedy talk about not wanting the victim’s life to be “in vain” but that’s the politically correct thing to say. All those long hours of parenting, waking up early to drive him to school, helping him with homework, working all day to support him, supporting all his extracurricular activities, not to mention all the special moments parents have with their children, just to turn around and have his life snatched from him at 17 for no reason. This rant is for every parent who has lost a child unjustly. I can’t understand your pain, but I know I won’t minimize it by saying, “everything happens for a reason”.

Yours truly,

theS.O.B.

Too many African American athletes never speak on social issues for whatever reason. It was GREAT to see the Miami Heat and especially D. Wade and Lebron for showing respect to Trayvon Martin and his family. We can change the world whenever we decide to stick together.

Yours truly,

theS.O.B.

This is what first degree murder sounds like so DON’T run from it!!! Listen to it, listen to Trayvon scream for HELP!!! It should break your heart and make you uneasy. Maybe this can be the last time a young black man gets killed for no reason!!! The world has to change one day, why not NOW!

Yours truly,

theS.O.B.